Why men lie. Views from a man.

Once again, I found myself going through different blogs.  Call it a minor addiction.  Once again I saw a truck load of why men suck articles.  Now I am not trying to hold us up as some paragon of virtue, but are we really that bad?  Honestly ladies, I know that some of you have been burned a few times by my more Cro-Magnon brethren, but do you really think that we all suck?  One of the dominant topics is why do men lie.  I know the answer and I am going to give it to you in this blog.

Why do men lie?  The question is as old as time its self.  The truth of the matter is that men generally do not lie.  We don’t, sorry to disappoint.  Keep in mind that I am not talking about the loser that took your money out of the bank and left you with the credit card bills.  That is a liar, but that is not most men.  It is true that you females perceive many things we say as lies that we meant at the time.  The truth is that men are more indecisive than women.  We will tell you how much we care about you and then we begin to analyze to what we have committed.  Don’t give me the BS that men are afraid of commitment, we aren’t.  We are great at commitment.  We will commit all day and night, but we tend to get sidetracked.   We make commitments that we, mentally, aren’t ready to make.  We jump the gun so to speak.  Believe me, when we are confession our undying love for you, we mean it, the issue is that we use words that have very strong meanings, meanings that we don’t fully think through at the time.  So I guess you could say the first reason that we lie is due to over exuberance.

Another reason that we lie is that we just aren’t in the mood to have a long drawn out conversation about the subject.  Ladies, and I say this with all the love that I have, sometimes you overanalyze stuff.  When asked the question, “why were you looking at her like that?” you aren’t going to believe the truth.  The truth is that she looks spectacular in that skirt.  That’s it, nothing more.  She is smoking hot.  If we tell you that, then we get, “You probably just want to sleep with her!”  No, that was not what I said, I said she was hot.  “Go ahead, chases her around like some middle aged fool!”  Ladies, we are not shopping when we do this.  A man that likes women will find his eyes drifting toward them.  It doesn’t mean that he wants to sleep with them.  It means that they were walking by and he happened to notice.  Then you noticed him noticing and all hell broke loose.  So when we get the “why were you looking at her like that?” question, you get the stupid things that we say.  “Looking at who?” is the most common and once again all hell breaks loose. 

Ladies, chances are that he wants to be with you, if he didn’t you would know it.  He lies to you because the two of you haven’t built the trust that is needed to avoid lying.  Once he knows that you aren’t going to become the Hanging Judge when he looks at another woman, then it opens up conversations that you have never had with a man.  You become closer.  You become friends as well as lovers.  Show him that you want to understand him and he will let you.